JOY IS A CHOICE

For six years I avoided singles activities at all cost. I broke into a cold sweat and felt the rising of a panic attack at the very thought of speaking to the opposite sex. Trying to be invisible to the world, I did not want to encourage any more painful relationships. Danger, Danger was my mind and more importantly my HEART set.

It is a new day and I feel compelled to share the way to loving fulfilling relationships starts with YOU! You are not alone and the first step is to attend single events meeting others just like you. This choice over time dissipates your fear. I understand single adults are each on a different level seeking a companion. For many it is your objective to not find a companion, but your heart deeply aches for the pure unconditional one-on-one relationship that only marriage brings. Feeling rejuvenated to try again I want to help each LDS single adult to know and feel they are not alone. We all have a story and reason why we aren’t fully engaged in the singles program or finding a mate. As painful as this sounds “So what!” This is an excuse to stop living. I know because I was there. This is not a rehearsal this is the REAL deal. At times it is still scary and I have to wrestle within my heart and head to attend activities. The motto for my children was “Be where you need to be”. “Be,” means in person with your whole body and soul. I am disheartened at the new virtual seek and contact single system. Communicating miles apart behind a computer screen has blinding limitations. A virtual world creates virtual relationships.

My goal is for all of us to meet REAL People and have REAL Time together so we can have REAL Eternal Joy. Fear and faith cannot abide together. Courage is the action that over rides fear to move forward. May we have the strength and courage to act in hope and faith to love again. You are truly healed when you can love as you have always loved. That is the miracle of the atonement. The Savior loves us and can heal us from our pain. Let’s not waste our days waiting, but live our life in joy.
Joy is a choice